They mingled and took a few pics, but the main event was JB banging out a beat.When it comes to having sex with a new partner, everyone has an opinion on when’s the ‘right’ time to take the plunge – and the truth is, they’re all wrong!It’s terrific in that role, mixing titillation with a narrative of moral decline among elite young people, and giving commentators a chance to tisk at kids these days. The trouble isn’t just that the standard narrative about hook-ups—the idea that college kids are getting wasted and sleeping with random strangers every Saturday night—overstates things.It’s that it masks some of the things that are really interesting, and sometimes worrying, about young adults’ notions of sex and gender roles. A recent paper by Martin Monto and Anna Carey of the University of Portland confirmed what scholars looking at sexual behavior on campus have known for a while—the notion of modern campuses as a non-stop sex-fueled party is massively overblown.The last thing you want is to feel criticised, uncomfortable or – in extreme cases – hurt or threatened.That’s why taking some time to get to know someone is often the best way of ensuring you have no regrets when you do decide to sleep with them.
This shared awkwardness can often feel more intimate than the sex itself; these are the moments that you really let your guard down and let your partner see the real you.The big change came with the Baby Boom’s sexual revolution, and increases in casual sex since then have been relatively gradual.They also note that hooking up rarely happens between total strangers and often involves “relatively light” sexual activity.Writing in the American Sociological Association magazine , Elizabeth A.
Armstrong of the University of Michigan, Laura Hamilton of the University of California, Merced, and Paula England of New York University agree that modern campus culture isn’t a big departure from the recent past.
Looking at survey data from two groups of students, one that was in school from 1988 to 1996 and the other from 2004 to 2012, Monto and Carey found that the “hookup era” kids didn’t have more sex, or more partners, than the earlier group.