Dating after being cheated in


Restoring relationship trust takes time and ongoing effort.The only way to speed the process is to engage in total voluntary honesty, telling the truth about not just what a betrayed partner already knows or strongly suspects, but everything — even little stuff like “I forgot to take out the trash this morning.” If a betrayed spouse’s continuing mistrust seems like a problem, a cheater can voluntarily offer up his or her calendar, install tracking and monitoring software on his or her phone that his or her partner can access at any time, provide full access to his or her computer, completely turn over the family’s finances, etc.In fact, after more than 25 years as a therapist specializing in sex and intimacy issues, I can state unequivocally that the process of healing a relationship damaged by infidelity begins and ends with the restoration of trust.Moreover, to repair relationship trust, cheaters must not only come clean — in a general way, with the guidance of an experienced couple’s counselor — about what they have done, they must also become rigorously honest about all aspects of their life, both in the moment and moving forward.



And many cheaters will opt for a different approach, which is to continue lying, but to try to do it more effectively. But it does not address the underlying issues that led to the infidelity.The definition misses the scenario where the cheater announces he's going out to cheat and doesn't give a damn because he feels entitled to it or because of neglected needs.In this case it's honest and up front but I'd still call it cheating.Why do we still write our books and papers as if men are the only ones cheating?